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Pronoun discussion goes slightly berserk; Gamers in internalised sexism shock

Posted by Richie on November 16, 2007

My memory is probably less than accurate because I haven’t played Dungeons & Dragons since high school, but as far as I recall, the most recently released books handled gendered pronouns in one of three ways:

  • Alternating between male and female pronouns throughout.
  • Explaining rules using examples involving the characters rather than the players, so Lidda the halfling has her equipment and her hit points, while whatever the half-orc’s name is has his strength score and his experience points.
  • Always using male pronouns, but with a disclaimer at the beginning about how it’s just a convenience thing and you can replace them with female ones in your mind (how magnanimous).

Games Workshop’s Warhammer books, true to their past form, don’t bother with any of the above and consistently use masculine pronouns without so much as a pseudo-apology. Given the relatively large number of women involved in both the company and the fandom, you’d expect them to at least put ‘being vaguely gender-inclusive’ somewhere down the bottom of their to-do list, but clearly most of their effort is going into finding new synonyms for ‘destroy’.

Somebody on a forum notices this. He jokingly points out that, if you take the rules absolutely literally, women aren’t allowed to play it. Embittered twit responds!

Ummm…. That would only be true if the English language, before being all politically-correctified, didn’t use masculine pronouns by default to mean ‘male and female’. Which it does. So I guess only _liberal_ females aren’t allowed to play.

Political Correctness = Anything that makes me question institutionalised prejudice. That this is still used today, as in example #3 above, doesn’t seem to matter. The masculine pronoun as default was changed because it was alienating and non-inclusive; it wasn’t fair prior to whenever the fuck political correctness was invented, and we’re presently dealing with shit that was published in 2007 anyway, so how things were doesn’t matter. On the basis of this, we should refuse to accept ‘anymore’.

Somebody else has a sensible suggestion.

You can just say ‘their’.

But, no.

You can, but the book doesn’t… It specifically says ‘his’. I mentioned it once to a female opponent, and she called me a sexist pig. Until I pointed it out in the book.

I bet her face was red, since everybody knows that your behaviour ceases to be sexist if there’s a precedent in a book about space elves.

Meanwhile, somebody who’s extended their literary horizons beyond the set texts makes an observation.

Most RPG rulebooks, and some of my criminal justice textbooks, refer to any player as “her”. Probably to make it seem less hostile to those of the feminine persuasion.

‘Probably’. This fact elicits the following reaction:

…… (shivers)

Yeah, imagine if RPG rulebooks were sexist.

Another sensible suggestion is made.

I believe that the proper way is to say “his or her”/”he or she” etc…

Another sensible suggestion is shot down by one of the thousand interchangeable people with ‘dominatus’ somewhere in their username.

The politically correct way. Not the proper way. Political correctness is… something I won’t bash for the sake of keeping this thread open.

Political Correctness = Acknowledging the existence of people who aren’t exactly like me. Considering the present state of the thread, I don’t think bashing whatever the hell political correctness is stands much chance of closing it down. Christ, it’s not like people were suggesting ‘herstory’.

Because I expect only the finest pedantry from wargamers, it takes slightly over a page for somebody to point out that…

Their is technically innacurate because it’s plural.

Which is true, although it’s basically acceptable and doesn’t confuse the meaning, unlike the inability of the staff writers to differentiate between ‘loathe’ and ‘loath’. Sadly, this post continues.

I knew a serious fem-nazzi in philosophy class back in the day, and she always made a big stink of this, then i pointed out that there is no possesive single case direct predicate in the english language, so we have to attach a gender… i’ll use his because i’m a him. and you use her’s because you’re a her.

Start To Feminazi: Less than three pages. Also, if you want to get pedantic about grammar, it helps to use capital letters sometimes.

Haha, good job on the front lines! *medal*

Why don’t women date geeks? 8(

Somebody says what everybody who isn’t a raging asshole is thinking.

grammar arguements are pointless, english language is a living language and it evolves to suit the speaker, it is a tool and hence can be used anyway the person sees fit. Without language developing we would all still speak in grunts so personally I’m all for bad grammar (and spelling) because it’s the future.

We could argue over the precise definition of ‘bad’ here, but he’s got a point. OR DOES HE?

True to some extent, yes. But taken to the extent that the use of ‘his’ is taken to mean ‘to the complete exclusion of the female population’ is ridiculous. No, the use of ‘his’ does not preclude women from playing Warhammer, and it is among the least of factors keeping them from doing so. Unless they are a femi-nazi, in which case, I don’t feel like playing them because they ruin my language. And any responses to this post from anyone who acts like aforementioned zealous feminists will be utterly ignored into oblivion.

He’s right; there are a lot of other reasons women are staying the fuck away from mainstream gaming, and he’s managed to demonstrate a fair number of them just in this post.

It was at this point (half way down page three) that I gave up because it was making me too depressed.

30 Responses to “Pronoun discussion goes slightly berserk; Gamers in internalised sexism shock”

  1. Isa said

    Ahh… This is sad! Christ… “Why don’t women date geeks? 8(” – well said.

  2. Richie said

    I went back and it actually got worse.

    Read 1984. The deterioration of the written and spoken language is a major threat to freedom.

    Remember, insisting on using masculine pronouns by default is a form of freedom.

  3. cellycel said

    Yeah – any changes to the English language. They be deterioration!

  4. Richie said

    I mean, surely these people aren’t so stupid as to miss the fairly glaring fact that “Masculine pronouns will always be the default and any women who happen to be reading can shut up or bugger off, PS. This isn’t sexist because we said so” has far more in common with Newspeak than the thing they’re actually criticising? Right? RIGHT?

  5. Laura said

    Were this a just world, starting a sentence with ‘Ummm…’ and then making any comment whatsoever on the English language would surely cause one’s head to explode with sheer irony.

  6. Richie said

    But this isn’t a just world, it’s an Orwellian nightmare where I can’t openly demean women without being forced to undergo soul-destroying psychological torture in a reeducation camp people sometimes sighing at me.

  7. Laura said

    Well, the two are practically indistinguishable. The logical solution to these problems, of course, would just be to use ‘she’ as the normative pronoun, given that women are a majority of the population. Although that would probably DESTROY CIVILISATION ITSELF.

  8. Richie said

    Undoubtedly; the leadership gene and the shopping gene are incompatible.

  9. tekanji said

    Their is technically innacurate because it’s plural.

    No! Wrong! The ignorance of the English language must stop O.O The singular they actually has a longstanding approval in the English language. From Language Log:

    Yet another epicene pronoun: Hu are we kidding? (see links)

  10. Richie said

    Now, now, you’re applying logic. We’re through the looking glass.

  11. purtek said

    utterly ignored into oblivion.

    Not just ignored. Utterly ignored. Into oblivion. I know *I* find that frightening. And it certainly convinces *me* that in refusing to use feminine pronouns, these people are in *no way* attempting to pretend I don’t exist or force me to conform to whatever they think.

    no possesive single case direct predicate

    If you want to get pedantic about grammar, it may also help to know what the hell these words mean.

  12. Richie said

    Unwisely, I checked it again, and now he’s throwing his English Minor around as proof that he can’t possibly be wrong about anything.

    They could easily change everything to “His or Her” in the books without upping the page count simply by removing some of Eye of Argon-quality breakout text. Lo, the Crimson Legion have been drawn to battle by the promise of slaughter!

  13. Jemima said

    Yep, the D&D books alternate the articles based on the gender of the character currently being used as an example. Likewise the Shadowrun books from FanPro/FASA use examples with male and female character as well as male and female players. There’s a lot of complicated calculations in that system, so it’s quite common to see examples such as “Derek’s character gets caught in the blast and he must roll… Kathy decides that she can use her character’s ability to help Derek’s character survive the attack.” Call of Cthulhu from Chaosium are among those who use both genders when choosing definite articles.

    Some game publishers have adjusted to more openly welcome female gamers, other have clearly not. Personally I’m not too bothered by it, I am so used to ‘he’ being used as a non-gendered article that I seldom think of it as male. I can easily be imagining a female character when the text is using he, and then in some cases when it was actually supposed to mean male rather than either gender I end up being very confused when the maleness of the character becomes relevant to the progress of the story or the explanation.

    One thing I always wondered, though, was why they don’t use ‘you’. “If you’re playing a mage, you can do so and so etc etc.” it’s non-gendered and it’s directed at the reader. Of course they’d have to rewrite all the texts, replacing ‘he’ with ‘they’ would be so much easier :P

    Oh and don’t even get me started on male players playing female characters. ARGH! Being a female I find it rather easy to play a male character. I think it is because I realise that men and women are not so different, especially not in a fantasy/sci-fi setting where gender roles can be abolished as we please. But normally I play my own gender, simply because if the GM or a fellow player decides to play on gender anyway, I won’t have to start defending “why I had my character to do so and so since that is obviously not what a man would normally do.” On the other hand I have seen male players play female characters and make them narcissistic bints who spend all their free time playing with their hair and fixing their clothes, when I questioned them about whether that’s all she does I got the response “Yeah, she’s a typica female.” and if I call them on the bullshit I get told I’m being silly. Oh yeah, and people wonder why so few girls are RP’ers and why those who are prefer to avoid most of the male populace of that particular hobby.

    /rant

  14. Richie said

    On the other hand I have seen male players play female characters and make them narcissistic bints who spend all their free time playing with their hair and fixing their clothes, when I questioned them about whether that’s all she does I got the response “Yeah, she’s a typica female.” and if I call them on the bullshit I get told I’m being silly.

    Yeah, this sort of shit used to happen all the time in my group. Once there was this massive argument over female characters shaving their legs while in dungeons, and how she’d have to use up one of her 0-level cantrips on a minor appearance altering spell to remove unsightly hair without wasting our valuable water supplies. I suggested that she could just wear pants, but was overruled because her beltskirt was both attractive and functional. Oh, and the character sheet said she “looks like the hot one out of The Donnas”.

  15. MaggieCat said

    Unless they are a femi-nazi, in which case, I don’t feel like playing them because they ruin my language.

    There are so many reasons that this is my favorite part. The fact that the entire purpose of language is to communicate with the general public, meaning that by definition it’s public property. The misuse of the generally accepted form of “Feminazi” making him look even dumber. The fact that apparently asking someone to make a slight modification to their pronouns is equivalent to world destroying fascism. (Okay, that last one may be the whole ‘my grandpa’s family left Germany just before Hitler came into power’ thing rearing its easily offended head again.) So much stupidity and entitlement worked into one teeny sentence, it’s a thing of wonder. As in I wonder how these people managed to live this long without someone at the very least smacking them in the head with dictionaries. No wait, that could actually explain a few things…

  16. Richie said

    It’s especially bleak because most of the guys on that forum are in their 30s and 40s, not a bunch of teenagers who could potentially improve.

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  18. Alva said

    Holy fucking crap… And, suddenly, I remember why I left Warseer behind. (I don’t know if this is taken from Warseer, but it very well could have been)

    You are pointing out exactly why I have left conventions, tournaments and gaming organizations, to play warhammer and RPG with a small bunch of carefully chosen friends. Feminazi, ofcourse. After all, I am a flaming lesbian, and so are my boyfriends. (Just using a very special kind of ladism logic here, sorry)

    It’s interesting and depressing, from a purely ideological viewpoint, to witness male gamers playing female characters, as it says more than enough about their view on gender roles. One guy I play with uses such a thin and light little voice on his female characters that even 50-year old matrons sound like nine-year-olds. The interesting part is that he regularly is surrounded by women who demands their space and surely doesn’t speak like fourteen year old anime girls. It only confirms my belief that femininity seldom has much to do with actual women, except in the destructive way of creating discrimintion.

    Thank you for a wonderful blog, btw. :)

  19. Richie said

    Yeah, it’s from Warseer. There’s an expanded version here: http://cerise.theirisnetwork.org/archives/317

    I had a guy in a D&D group back in high school who played a female character described as “looking like the hot one out of The Donnas”. ‘I take my shirt off to distract the monsters’. Eventually he started DMing, made us roll vampire characters and tried to get us to drink real blood at the table. I saw him at the shops a week ago and hid in the toilet.

  20. Alva said

    What to say? Nerds s a group have a good, long history of seeing themselves as the “good guys” on the bottom of the food chain, and therefor seldom are even close to receptive to any criticism concerning their behaviour as white, christian, heterosexual males. I’ll never forget the whining I heard at a seminar on a local gaming convention when several young men claimed that it was “unfair” that female gamers tended to play in the same groups, because they wanted girls in their groups as well. I was still young and idealistic, and tried to explain to them the simple fact that we play for fun, and not to meet any kind of obligation toward the gaming society at whole for a nice rack in every RPG-group. It didn’t seem to sink in.

    Yes, why, oh why, does female gamers seek each other out? The only explanation these guys were able to come up with was because we discriminated them on the basis of them not being hunky. Because all female gamers play for getting laid. Yeah. That’s gotta be it. *rolls eyes*

    It’s good to know I’m not the only one who dodges old gaming buddies when I pass them on the street.

  21. Richie said

    Actually, one of my old gaming buddies who I hadn’t talked to for about three years showed up over at the Iris Network to complain about women-only gaming groups last year. So that was a nice moment of, yeah, now I’m sure I made the right decision in ignoring you.

  22. bellatrys said

    Because all female gamers play for getting laid. Yeah. That’s gotta be it. *rolls eyes*

    Well, shoot, that’s the only reason guys like Richie pretend to be feminists and to respect women as people too, didn’t you know? They just do it to get laid! (How this works in practice, when all feminists are Man-Hating Lesbians(TM) is one of those Mysteries of the Unknown…)

  23. Richie said

    And don’t forget that I’m also gay!

    (Truth in Television: I did end up sleeping with one woman as a direct result of feminism, but it ended horribly and I’m still immensely bitter about it. Note to any MRAs reading: I did not then use said bitterness as a jumping off point to write 10,000 word rants about how feminists have mistreated me PLAY ALONG AT HOME AND LEARN!)

  24. Alva said

    How it works? It’s simple! All men-hating lesbians just need a real good piece of male genitalia to become sex-loving hentai-kittens. So, men pretend to be feminists to get in on the action!

    On a more serious note, I have a deep mistrust, when it comes to sex, for both males and females who doesn’t call themselves feminists or show a certain level of gender awareness. So, yeah, calling oneself a feminist is a pre-requisite to ever get nasty with me and several of my friends.

  25. bellatrys said

    It’s pretty wild, how becoming a feminist allows people to violate the Law of Non-Conradiction, aka the Identity Postulate (x = x, x =/= not-x) as if by magic: it’s the same way all feminist women are simultaneously Hairy-legged Man-hating Lesbians AND self-indulgent Fashion-obsessed Nymphomaniac Sluts – it’s a tough job, but somebody’s got to do it! (Just don’t ask us how…)

  26. Richie said

    It’s to do with quantum theory. You’re all potentially man hating lesbians and fashion-obsessed nymphos, but only the application of Masculine Objectivity can make it definite.

  27. bellatrys said

    LOL, ROFL, sporfle, TANSTAAFL, etc–

    I was a Philosophy major. You can’t IMAGINE how many times I wanted to start screaming random oblique commentary like “Pieces-of-eight! Pieces-of-eight!” in the middle of Metaphysics class when somebody started waffling on about potentia and Being and how these related to Time/Space/Matter and whether Time had Prior Existence to Space – all without any reference to Hawking or any of the stuff being discussed daily in the science news in the 90s. And then there was the Aristotelian/neo-Aristotelian BS about the male seed actualizing the female potentiality with lots of dumb, snide, aint-I-so-cute? puns on mater/matter–

    It’s a good thing I had put down my teacup before clicking the link.

  28. Richie said

    Whereas in film, we cut out the waffle and head straight for “…and then he punches her in the face” without any attempt at justification.

  29. bellatrys said

    That way you are leaving something for the film critics to do, it’s a good division of labor. (If you can’t understand an essay on the meaning of a movie about punching women in the face (or anything else) without resorting to a specialist dictionary, the author hasn’t done his (word chosen advisedly) job!

  30. Richie said

    Who Weekly calls it “A guilty pleasure”.

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